Valentine’s Day. Deep sigh. It’s the time when hearts, flowers, chocolates, love letters and all things cheesy are in season, when men are required to unleash their romantic soul while women anticipate its release. I personally believe it’s an occasion full of mediocrity, an occasion where florists, greeting card companies, jewelry stores, and not the couples in love are the happiest. For those in a relationship, it heightens the expenses of men and the expectations of women; and for those who are not, it heightens the feeling of loneliness and self-pity.
Mediocre as it is, single individuals still wish to be part of the mediocrity. The feeling when you’re a recipient of love and admiration is simply joyous; thus, the sight of lovestruck couples on Valentine’s Day sometimes leaves us irritated and low with self-esteem. However, celebrating the day of love doesn’t mean it has to be spent romantically with a partner, it is celebrating love with the most important person in your life (aside from family and friends), YOU! You may spend the day choosing to be happy or by pitying yourself, but ultimately, you have to survive that day. With that, I present to you some suggestions on how you can survive doomsday, bitterly known as Valentine’s Day.
Pamper yourself
Treat yourself to a massage, a manicure, a new hair color, or whatever activity that will make you feel like a princess, because you are indeed one. Remember that Valentine’s Day is a S.A.D. event or better known as Single Awareness Day, the perfect day to accept your single status, and love everything about it. It is your day, a welcome break to actually do things that you love to do without the additional burden of pleasing someone. Find some way to treat yourself special today to remind yourself how much you love you. You can even go out of your way and buy yourself flowers and chocolates but be sure not to be caught by anyone or you’d be the joke of the town.
Reflect on love
Reflect about love in general, the hurt of the past and the hope of a better future in love. Look back on your failed relationships and appreciate how far better you’ve become since then. Reflect on the things that led to its end, not to make you feel sorry for yourself, but to lead you to the acceptance that these things ended because it is preparing you for a love story specially written for you.
Have a singles night out
Remember you are not alone in being alone. Round up your single friends for a fun night. Just because you are single doesn't mean you have to spend the day or night alone! Go on a fancy dinner, drink some martini, or better yet make fun of the nearby couples exchanging googly eyes with each other. Or if you want to skip the crowd, arrange an all-night movie marathon with your BFFs, but do skip the chick flicks because the last thing you want to do is cry over some silly movie that makes you wonder why you can't find a guy like the one in the movie.
Treat your parents out on a date
This is actually the perfect time to pay tribute to the love your parents share with each other. Remember it is because of this love that you are here on this day celebrating Valentine’s Day alone. But seriously, do you actually remember the last time you have actually spent some quality time with your parents? Your old best friend might also have complained on various occasions that you are devoting more time to your friends. Treat them out to a Valentine’s date, and if they agree, they can even allow you to be their third wheel.
Call or send a message to someone you've lost touch with
Before you pick up your phone or compose that message, please do not even think of getting in touch with your ex. It’s awful, embarrassing, and desperate and you’ll surely regret it. It would only make your ex feel like he’s the biggest catch, believe that you are not yet over him, or worse, abuse that power he has over you by letting you cling on to him without the commitment, and in the end leaving you feeling worthless. So skip that thought and reconnect instead with an old friend you haven’t spoken to for a long time or someone you had a rift with, they’ll surely appreciate your gesture.
Get a head start on planning that perfect summer getaway!
Instead of thinking about Valentine’s Day, think about the more exciting event that is coming soon – SUMMER! Imagine yourself at the beach all bikini-clad, reading a book, sipping a cool glass of mango juice under the heat of the summer sun but protected by the coolness of the palm trees. If that thought doesn’t excite you, I don’t know what will. Nonetheless, instead of utilizing your energy on feeling sorry for yourself, start on planning on the getaway you have long been wanting to go to.
Get fit
The perfect summer getaway should be partnered with the perfect summer body. Or if you are not conscious about that, engaging in a physical and strenuous activity is your perfect chance to release the stress from work and the pressures of having a love life. Hit the gym or jog around your community and you’ll never know you’d be bumping into the love of your life.
Write something
It’s a good time to unleash your inner creative goddess and express yourself in writing. You can write a poem, a short story, a song, or even start your own personal blog, or whichever way where you will be able to channel your emotions. You can even write a letter to that someone who broke your heart, but make sure not to send it. As for me, I think I’ll be posting new blog entry that day. The topic? How I survived Valentine ’s Day alone. Lol
Immerse yourself with work
Instead of rushing out of the office at exactly 5:30, why not extend your working hours to perhaps 10pm? Finish all your deadlines or if done already, you can start on your projects that are scheduled for 2014. That way, when you get out of the office, all the couples are off the streets and are now cuddling happily in their love nests. Your boss will surely be impressed by your efficiency, but then, be ready as he/she will surely trust you with more tasks.
Stay home
If you are not comfortable going out and seeing happy couples at work or at the streets, you can always take a leave from work and stay home. You can munch on the junk food, finish the TV series that you were watching or better yet, sleep the whole day away; and the next thing you know, Valentine’s Day has passed and you can now freely roam the streets. But you have to be ready to be mocked by your pesky and curious officemates on your return.
Truth is, you can never escape Valentine’s Day, and even on a day not February 14, you will see happy couples everywhere. From your parents who, at their age, are still crazy in love with each other to officemates exchanging flirtatious glances or to strangers walking hand in hand at the park, you just have to be happy for them and remember that you are not alone in being alone. You have to believe that someday, one Valentine’s day soon, you will be one of them, spending this special day with that most special person in your life. You just have to have faith.
Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! Wishing everyone a heart filled with happiness and hope!
Mediocre as it is, single individuals still wish to be part of the mediocrity. The feeling when you’re a recipient of love and admiration is simply joyous; thus, the sight of lovestruck couples on Valentine’s Day sometimes leaves us irritated and low with self-esteem. However, celebrating the day of love doesn’t mean it has to be spent romantically with a partner, it is celebrating love with the most important person in your life (aside from family and friends), YOU! You may spend the day choosing to be happy or by pitying yourself, but ultimately, you have to survive that day. With that, I present to you some suggestions on how you can survive doomsday, bitterly known as Valentine’s Day.
Pamper yourself
Treat yourself to a massage, a manicure, a new hair color, or whatever activity that will make you feel like a princess, because you are indeed one. Remember that Valentine’s Day is a S.A.D. event or better known as Single Awareness Day, the perfect day to accept your single status, and love everything about it. It is your day, a welcome break to actually do things that you love to do without the additional burden of pleasing someone. Find some way to treat yourself special today to remind yourself how much you love you. You can even go out of your way and buy yourself flowers and chocolates but be sure not to be caught by anyone or you’d be the joke of the town.
Reflect on love
Reflect about love in general, the hurt of the past and the hope of a better future in love. Look back on your failed relationships and appreciate how far better you’ve become since then. Reflect on the things that led to its end, not to make you feel sorry for yourself, but to lead you to the acceptance that these things ended because it is preparing you for a love story specially written for you.
Have a singles night out
Remember you are not alone in being alone. Round up your single friends for a fun night. Just because you are single doesn't mean you have to spend the day or night alone! Go on a fancy dinner, drink some martini, or better yet make fun of the nearby couples exchanging googly eyes with each other. Or if you want to skip the crowd, arrange an all-night movie marathon with your BFFs, but do skip the chick flicks because the last thing you want to do is cry over some silly movie that makes you wonder why you can't find a guy like the one in the movie.
Treat your parents out on a date
This is actually the perfect time to pay tribute to the love your parents share with each other. Remember it is because of this love that you are here on this day celebrating Valentine’s Day alone. But seriously, do you actually remember the last time you have actually spent some quality time with your parents? Your old best friend might also have complained on various occasions that you are devoting more time to your friends. Treat them out to a Valentine’s date, and if they agree, they can even allow you to be their third wheel.
Call or send a message to someone you've lost touch with
Before you pick up your phone or compose that message, please do not even think of getting in touch with your ex. It’s awful, embarrassing, and desperate and you’ll surely regret it. It would only make your ex feel like he’s the biggest catch, believe that you are not yet over him, or worse, abuse that power he has over you by letting you cling on to him without the commitment, and in the end leaving you feeling worthless. So skip that thought and reconnect instead with an old friend you haven’t spoken to for a long time or someone you had a rift with, they’ll surely appreciate your gesture.
Get a head start on planning that perfect summer getaway!
Instead of thinking about Valentine’s Day, think about the more exciting event that is coming soon – SUMMER! Imagine yourself at the beach all bikini-clad, reading a book, sipping a cool glass of mango juice under the heat of the summer sun but protected by the coolness of the palm trees. If that thought doesn’t excite you, I don’t know what will. Nonetheless, instead of utilizing your energy on feeling sorry for yourself, start on planning on the getaway you have long been wanting to go to.
Get fit
The perfect summer getaway should be partnered with the perfect summer body. Or if you are not conscious about that, engaging in a physical and strenuous activity is your perfect chance to release the stress from work and the pressures of having a love life. Hit the gym or jog around your community and you’ll never know you’d be bumping into the love of your life.
Write something
It’s a good time to unleash your inner creative goddess and express yourself in writing. You can write a poem, a short story, a song, or even start your own personal blog, or whichever way where you will be able to channel your emotions. You can even write a letter to that someone who broke your heart, but make sure not to send it. As for me, I think I’ll be posting new blog entry that day. The topic? How I survived Valentine ’s Day alone. Lol
Immerse yourself with work
Instead of rushing out of the office at exactly 5:30, why not extend your working hours to perhaps 10pm? Finish all your deadlines or if done already, you can start on your projects that are scheduled for 2014. That way, when you get out of the office, all the couples are off the streets and are now cuddling happily in their love nests. Your boss will surely be impressed by your efficiency, but then, be ready as he/she will surely trust you with more tasks.
Stay home
If you are not comfortable going out and seeing happy couples at work or at the streets, you can always take a leave from work and stay home. You can munch on the junk food, finish the TV series that you were watching or better yet, sleep the whole day away; and the next thing you know, Valentine’s Day has passed and you can now freely roam the streets. But you have to be ready to be mocked by your pesky and curious officemates on your return.
Truth is, you can never escape Valentine’s Day, and even on a day not February 14, you will see happy couples everywhere. From your parents who, at their age, are still crazy in love with each other to officemates exchanging flirtatious glances or to strangers walking hand in hand at the park, you just have to be happy for them and remember that you are not alone in being alone. You have to believe that someday, one Valentine’s day soon, you will be one of them, spending this special day with that most special person in your life. You just have to have faith.
Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! Wishing everyone a heart filled with happiness and hope!
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